when you get attracted to someone, and before taking it to the next level, stop and ask yourself why. The Guyliner was created in 2010 by Justin Myers, a freelance writer and editor, to document and review all of the men he has dated (rating each of his dates out of 10 and including well-written, hilarious posts reviewing them). His blog contains excerpts from his freelance work for GQ, the Guardian Blind Date column, and other freelance projects – as well as his survival guide for being single.
Another way to make it work is to act in the way that you want OTHER people to act. I’m often surprised by profiles I read, then see the woman doing some of the very things she complains about guys doing. RESPOND to messages (the ones that aren’t lame, obviously), be cool and friendly.
We’ve had some serious talks already about our future and we’ve agreed on being together but not pushing it too much. I often feel neglected and it’s driving me crazy…I don’t consider myself clingy and hell yeah I have my life (university + freelance design job + part-time job) but I just wish we’ve spent our time more creatively and more intensively. He says he doesn’t have money for all my trip ideas but he’s from a rich family, I’m sure his parents would support him.
If you really like this girl enough to see if she can be your mate then go that route. Ideally, you’d go to her parents and let them know your interest and court her. Get your parents involved, set something up, get to know eachother a little better through talking and if you guys click then don’t hesitate and get married.
These kinds of behaviors are considered unhealthy, because they are about one partner exerting power and control over another to get what they want. Abusive behaviors like possessiveness, jealousy, manipulation, isolation, insults, temper tantrums, yelling, and physical threats like pushing or pulling hair are not okay.
It is funny how we ignore that little voice inside that tries to warn us to be wary. It’s true, sometimes we don’t recognize the red flags or warning signs of an unhealthy attraction or relationship – but often we do and move ahead as if that inner voice never said a word. I think life experience and emotional maturity are two factors involved in whether we heed the warnings or proceed full speed ahead.