Dating can be hard when you are a geek or nerd, especially when you would rather stay at home and binge watch Dr. Who or your favorite anime, study for that Quantum Mechanics test you have coming up, or any of the other thousands of things that are more fun than going out and drinking at a bar. You could always meet that special someone at a convention where hundreds, sometimes thousands of fans of anime, Star Trek, comic books and other fandoms converge for a weekend full of fun. But it can hard to meet someone in this kind of setting, especially if you are shy. Virgo6, I believe a hint of invitation is a good thing. A smile is a hint. I find it to be simple, but effective-and it works both ways. I also believe that both men and women are free to play the field,” that is, until a couple reaches the point where they both want a monogamous relationship. What I am trying to convey to women is that if she is looking for a committed relationship, there are ways to discover whether he really cares. That being said, there are women who always pursue the man or make it so easy for him to have her-she really loses all sense of who cares about her and who doesn’t. And frankly, so does he. He becomes desensitized to what it means to commit and care for a woman and any children who may come as a result of their union. Consequently, he becomes a gatherer and never a giver.
Since our breakup two years ago, I haven’t dated anyone and honestly haven’t been interested in dating anyone. I really have been using the time to find peace and happiness again, and to allow God to be the center of my joy. I’ve been spending more time with the Lord lately, and know that I’m not ready to be in a relationship with anyone.
If you visit a professional relationship counselor they will tell you that marriage can be compared to a business. You have to build any business from a solid foundation to make a success of it. Same goes for a relationship. It takes open communication, love, dedication to each other commitment and caring. If you do not know how to compromise and are inflexible to your partners needs the marriage will disintegrate.
God created woman for man. Both, men and women have made the mistake of choosing to live outside of the boundaries that God ordained for man and woman to coexist. Without the respect for God and perhaps, the purpose that Jesus served for humanity, we as a people are bound to be doomed for destruction. We must go back to Eden and fix what was wronged. We must believe in the fact that God made all humanity and therefore, we owe it to live according to the Word of God. It is that simple. People would be more loving, happier and living longer. Unfortunately, many people date, are in relationships (long and short term) and marry for the wrong reasons. If such people knew how bad things could get then they would not make such bad choices. The time to choose God’s way of life is now and not when things get dire bad. Every man and woman has the purpose to love the other as well as the purpose to serve God so that things will work out for the Good. Read Romans 8:28.
I feel that books should not call it dealing with jealousy when you are in this mono/poly relationship. Instead they should define jealousy and envy. Now, people, comes the hard part. You should look at your own relationship and ask yourself, Is it jealousy or envy that I am dealing with?” If your answer is that you’re glad that your partner is being who they are and you are upset that you’re not doing it too, then that’s envy. If your answer is that you want to unleash the hounds from hell whenever your partner goes out with someone, then that’s jealousy and my advice to you is to think about staying in this relationship. Jealousy is not a good thing.
It is a common query whether you are in love or not. The answer is very tricky, as what you feel like love may be just an infatuation to the other person. Some signs of true love are trusting your partner, feeling good by being yourself and telling the truth and being honest to your partner, whatever the circumstances may be. Being in love, your first priority is to fulfill the wishes of your partner, rather than fulfilling yours. Real love is long-lasting and becomes stronger with time.