Why Do Men Pull Away?

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Laura Bilotta is a leading prominent dating coach and matchmaker with an earned reputation in North America. She has worked with thousands of people over the years by organizing speed dating/mixer events, coaching men and women into dating gurus and playing matchmaker for countless love-seeking singles. Laura is the author of Single in the City: From Hookups & Heartbreaks to Love & Lifemates, Tales & Tips to Attract Your Perfect Match. I spent the next half hour milling around trying to figure out what to do with myself. The other guests could tell that my ex didn’t want me there, and they didn’t know what to do either – they were friends with both of us. I could not remember when I felt more uncomfortable, or awkward. I had been part of her life and welcome in her home for two years. Suddenly, I was an unwelcome intruder.

I once sat with a boyfriend for two hours as he showed me an old family photo album and reminisced about his childhood. Almost the entire time (minus the first 10 minutes), I wanted to blow out my brains from boredom. That experience taught me one thing; he was not the guy for me! If you really like someone, looking at their family photos is a joyous experience and you can’t get enough. You laugh, ask questions, and prod for more details. It just feels so right – like you’re really connecting in a meaningful way. I still love to look at my husband’s childhood albums even after 20 years of marriage. I’m still finding out more about him and what makes him tick.

I’m in LDR myself, its still early days though. We met during the festive season and it was love at first sight. We spent about a month together before he had to leave to another country. We’ve been together for 5months now and haven’t seen him in 4months. Its really hard I must say, not for the faint-hearted. We chat everyday via Skype, txts and phonecalls even though its expensive. We love each other dearly and not a second passes without me thinking about him.

With me and my boyfriend, we have been together for 6 years now, since I was 16. We plan to get engaged and married soon after I graduate this year from university as he graduated last year. We waited 1 year into our relationship before we both lost our virginity to each other. We’ve never even had a break, we’ve just grown together for so long now. It’s hard when you’ve been together for so long, and you know each other so deeply, and both are God-fearing and want to glorify God in our marriage, because we know and believe he is the head of our relationship and we want to look to him in everything we do. We have made decisions to start encouraging each other through God more, and attend pre-marital counselling.

There’s either one guy that seems to have some sort of magnetic hold over her. He’s lied, he’s cheated, and he’s just no good but she can’t seem to say goodbye. Perhaps you even have a girlfriend who has a pattern of entering relationships with this kind of guy.Dating and Relationship

It doesn’t have to be this way. For Christians, the Lord has given us His Word, and the Holy Spirit helps us understand it. We have brothers and sisters in Christ to hold us accountable and to help us apply the Word to our lives. If you’re a Christian, that’s the biblical life you’re called to.