Dating can be hard when you are a geek or nerd, especially when you would rather stay at home and binge watch Dr. Who or your favorite anime, study for that Quantum Mechanics test you have coming up, or any of the other thousands of things that are more fun than going out and drinking at a bar. You could always meet that special someone at a convention where hundreds, sometimes thousands of fans of anime, Star Trek, comic books and other fandoms converge for a weekend full of fun. But it can hard to meet someone in this kind of setting, especially if you are shy. A nameless intellectual white atheist attempts to commit suicide by diving in front of the Sunset Limited, only to be rescued by a nameless, devoutly religious, black ex-con who takes the atheist to his apartment where they discuss religion, philosophy, and whether or not life has meaning. This room, and the discussions within it, are the sole setting and action for the entirety of the film.
Let me start this article off by telling you that all women are different and what they expect from a man will be different. Most women want to date men but for some reason, ironically, end up dating boys. It’s not your physical appearance, money or age that makes you a man. I personally wanted a boy in my life not a man; I ended up dating and falling in love with a boy. Dealing with a boy wasn’t easy; when he finally transitioned, I noticed that he turned out to become a man who was way manlier than many men I have known. My bad boy grew up with me, and I am proud of the gentleman he has become. Many of you might not agree with me but for me the criterion which differentiates boys from men is completely different. I don’t believe in the ‘Men will be men’ and ‘Boys will be Boys’ BS.
When you cook together, you’re typically in a narrow space so it becomes a sort of sensual dance – moving around the island, reaching for the pots and pans, brushing against one another. To create a romantic atmosphere, dim the lights, use some candles, and put on some soft music. Foods – their tastes, touch, and smells – trigger all kinds of memories that elicit thought-provoking conversation.
I just want to say thank you to everyone who has read this article and for all the wonderful people who have left comments. I read these every time I get them. I’m sorry I can’t respond to all of them, but I just want to say to everyone who is going through a breakup: it does get better.
Consider this quote from Massachusetts-based LCSW, Measue Liotta. She confirms that men skimp—or skip out—on Valentine’s Day when they’ve come to realize their girlfriend is NOT the woman they want to spend that special day with: It’s harder to fake it on these holidays when we want to be truly in love; harder to lie to ourselves when things don’t feel right or true during these should-be-blissful times.” Just as women don’t want to have to fake it” in the bedroom, men feel uncomfortable faking romantic attachment. They’d rather downplay the holiday or avoid you entirely.
It so happens that some values are better than others. Some values create better relationships than others. For instance, honesty generates better relationships than hype or impressing others. Trust generates better relationships than power/dominance. And respect generates better relationships than always being right.