Wasting Time In Relationships That Lead Nowhere

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A Korean girls greatest asset? Her coyness. The more innocent a Korean girl appears, the more attractive she becomes to her suitors. But let me clue you in on a little secret few Korean girls would admit to: it’s all fake. You might be able to point out that Korean culture is firmly founded on traditional values, and therefore the girls truly may be as coy as they seem…but I’m here to tell you, they’re not. Korean girls do just about everything else American girls do, the only differences is they keep it behind closed doors, and they don’t talk about it openly. There are two sides to this coin: for one, we’d be lying if we said the U.S. couldn’t use more of this. Sexual advertising is everywhere, it’s impossibly to avoid, so maybe the Koreans are on to something here….less is more. The guy I’m interested in doesn’t seem to know what he’s supposed to do to date me.” My take: Men are incredibly resourceful when there’s a problem that needs to be solved. Whether his car is making a weird noise or the latest iPhone update wiped all his data — he will head over to YouTube and learn how to fix it. If he really wants to ask you out / impress you / propose, he has a million ways to figure out how.

Instead, take a deep breath and swallow the truth. That’s step number one: accepting that it’s over. This will be the hardest step for most people, as optimism naturally takes over when the relationship ends. You’ll try to get the person back, hanging onto the notion that there may be a chance he or she will take you back. Let go. The quicker you accept the truth, the quicker you’ll get over him or her and start dating again.

A girl might need a man in her life to become a woman because of the stability he may bring to her. Others might be able to transition on their own. Sometimes, fate puts a person in such circumstances that they have to rise up above their potential. Remember the moment you push yourself beyond your limit, to achieve something in your life is the moment you change for good. This might be a tragedy, a broken relationship or sheer will power.

We met two years ago more or less. We got on a few dates, I think she was interested in me at the beggining, I was even invited to dinner at her place with her parents and brother and we saw a movie later. I remember I gave her a flower and later she texted me saying that that was her favourite flower and bla bla bla. However I guess I started loosing her when I told her (twice, on two different ocasions) that she was very special to me. The second time this happened she got angry with me and told me to stop saying those things. After that we had a conversation where I told her about my feelings for her and that I liked her, but she said that she never showed interest in me and she never gave me hopes (which I disagree with). Despite this, we remained friends, as she considered me her best friend back then.Dating and Relationship

On a funny note, I was with an NPD egotist friend at a bar one night and the egotist became a bit tipsy from too much to drink. Imagine this if you will: Seeing an egotist like that walking about the bar and sticking their nose up in the air at someone- only it was their own reflection in a mirror! I laughed until I was almost collapsing on the floor! Of course, he was too tipsy to realize he’d just snubbed himself and felt superior over it. lol. You could see it in his facial expression- the over bearingly arrogant, snotty attitude and the smugness. Having snubbed someone like that (even if it was himself!) seemed to give him a feeling of power and deep satisfaction while reconfiming his own superiority in his own mind.

Some relationships are super co-dependent. Maybe that’s the kind of gig you have to have. Clearly, that is not the situation he’d be attracted to. He’d be better suited with a woman with her own life, strong and independent. You’d be better suited with a man with much less of a sense of self.