Many women are confused and frustrated about men and dating….and they don’t know why. Here is my take on this malaise: At one time, men were the hunters and women were the gatherers. On an intuitive level, this essence is still alive today. However, since the advent of the sixties sexual revolution, American cultural standards have shifted. According to Dr. Karen Weinstein , a psychologist from New York, you should look back at the relationship for everything it was: both the good and the bad. Don’t idealize it. Instead, make a list of the things about it that didn’t make you happy. You might find some reasons it’s better that you two went your separate ways.
The smart woman does not play hard to get-she is hard to get. Let me explain. Playing hard to get suggests that a woman feigns disinterest in a man to whom she is attracted. Being hard to get has to do with the psyche of a woman who is selective about the kind of men she chooses to date in the first place.
Honestly Joel I’m very much an introvert, that has friends on IM’s and tried my luck with some. One of the ladies (I’m a guy) found me interesting and we are married today. Sometimes we need to tempt fate and live and learn with and from our choices.
You do bring up some interesting points, I find Ldr’s to be difficult, they can work but the Difference to people commenting in here and mine is the fact that my girlfriend and I were together for six months in Canada, her visa expired and she had to go Back to Russia and now we’ve been apart for three months with a hopefully coming back in a month for a month then she’s off to the states to pursue musical aspirations, luckily we both are musicians but she wishes not to live in Canada but see me maybe one or twice a year. I find it very hard to be in a relationship with someone who only has enough drive to see you once or twice a year and doesn’t want to live in your country.
I feel your pain. The only thing I can suggest is getting out there and meeting new people. New friendships can do a lot of good. I’ve had a lot of success with They have groups for every interest all across the country. I’ve made a lot of my new friends through that site.
These are characteristics of a truly confident person and none require you to have every aspect of your life in order or to strive for an unobtainable, perfect image. When you’ve mastered a truly feminine expression of confidence, you can be you and attract a man who appreciates what you have to offer. Focus on distinguishing yourself in every way possible. Give yourself permission to be outstanding.