I am in what people would call a mono/poly relationship. I am monogamous and my partner, M, is polyamorous. With respect to others, from what I have seen all the stuff that is out on mono/poly relationships is that they are written by poly people. I would like to blog about what works for us and hopefully will work for you too. This point may seem particularly obvious but the truth is that many gay men fall into the trap of ignoring this red flag. In gay years the phrase long term” can often differ from straight folks. A long term relationship for a gay man can be subjective at best. As a rule of thumb, 2 years or more is a good yardstick go by, give or take.
If you are just thinking about the fact that your ex girlfriend is dating again, then it might not really sink in at first why it would be good for you to set goals right now. Let’s explore why this is. Okay, one of the things that really gets to you when you are in a situation like this is that your self confidence gets shot down for a little while. … Read more
In every relationship there are issues. You have to take the good with the bad. Arguments happen. That’s normal. People have their quirks and if you want to be part of a couple for a long period of time, you do need to learn how to accept certain traits or annoying habits that could be less than desirable. This kind of guy loves a good intellectual discussion and you better be up to the challenge. He also loves setting high goals for himself, in school or in his career. He may be intensely tied-up with work or pursuing his masters or doctoral degree. Any one who wants healthy and lasting relationship should erase fantasy, loving for reasons and seeking person perfection where its impossible.
Bryan McMurray shares the heartwarming story of his marriage to his wife, Joanna, and how they support each other each and every day. Admit to yourself that you are responsible for making the decision to create a new life with that other person. YOU are responsible. So take responsibility for creating a harmonious co-parenting atmosphere for your child to thrive in.
Do not settle for someone who claims to be a Christian in name only but … Read more
If you’re reading this, you’re interested in dating. You’ve done it, you’re doing it, you’d like to do it, or you need to teach somebody else how to do it. Don’t worry. You’re not alone. In our society, dating has become something of an obsession. It is expected to be a universal phenomenon. It’s just something you do if you’re single and of age (and that age is quickly dropping) in America. It is considered the natural precursor to marriage, and is generally considered something to be desired, whatever form it might take. If you’re dating, it’s time to believe that you were made for so much more than this. It’s time to break free and allow God to bring you healing and restore your hope- How to Get out of a Toxic Relationship. Both genders can serve in our military and in combat zones. Both can be Business Leaders.
I think I just want to know whether he is stringing me along towards a friends-with-benefits scenario or if he genuinely does like me but is really just too busy. If someone you are dating in France is being very reserved with touching, understand that it’s a respect. They are … Read more
Now that I am engaged, I still feel like I have a lot to say to you gals that are just dating. Because I have been in some really unhealthy, not pleasing to God relationships, and then I’ve done it the right way (or at least made a real effort!) and I would’ve loved to have more resources about dating in a Godly way while I was a dating gal. A mature woman will not fuss on silly things. She will understand you better because she understands herself and her emotions. She remains in control of situations and knows how to handle them. When she meets with difficult situations she rises up to them and can seek out to ways that are less destructive to her relationship and to others around her.
Simone is putting all her emotional eggs in the one basket that is Jake, which fuels her obsessions and riding the rollercoaster. It would help her feel less trapped, have a better perspective if she can create other baskets. This may be dating other men, it may be not waiting around to see if he calls on a Saturday and instead make plans to go out with friends. … Read more
Simone has been dating Jake for several months. Every time they get together it’s wonderful – he’s sensitive and open, the sex is great. But then he’s gone – no contact for a couple of weeks, then he’s back, two dates nights in the same week, then back a week later, then nothing for 3 weeks. Simone feels like she is on a rollercoaster. She obsesses about him when he’s gone, but is afraid that if she pushes for any regularity or, God forbid, commitment he’ll bolt. Unless you are talking to open-minded or been there, done that folks, keep your trap shut. You start telling people about how real you lover is and they will slap you in a loony bin. Worse still, if they do believe you some might try to save you from this ‘demon’ possessing you. Yep, some people feel that sex is evil, therefore your lover must be evil. Yeah, that’s a load of crap, but it is out there.
Though this is not true for every relationship every time, there is a definite difference between dating and a relationship when it comes to clarity. While dating, one person may feel one way (exclusive v. … Read more