Many men and women believe that a non-committal, permanently casual situation is simply the modern version of a relationship — as if this is what passes for courtship in 2017. I’ve written about situationships before, using the term entanglement to describe a relationship that goes around and around in circles — for months or even years — but never leads to lasting commitment. That’s the kind of go-nowhere romance we’re talking about in this post. No doubt. This is why I tell women that they must step up their game as well. Otherwise, they really have only themselves to blame for all their disappointing relationships. That being said, sometimes the best of us can be fooled. Heartbreak cannot always be avoided.
As long as you are both consenting adults and care for one another, go for it. Witches and pagans after all tend to do as we please, never mind those who would tell us otherwise. Comes from all that walking between worlds, talking to the dead, and casting magical spells. Yeah we rule.
If you identify with any of these situations, I will let you in on a secret: the problem” in each of these scenarios is not that the man is shy or inexperienced. The underlying issue is that he is just not interested enough in starting up a relationship with that particular woman.
While this may seem like it’s much more common among women, I’ve been single long enough around enough single guys to know it’s not exclusively a female problem. The trajectory of all truly Christian romance ought to be marriage, so it should not surprise us that our dreams and expectations, our hearts, race out ahead of everything else.
They will tend to match your idea of a perfect lover and will have the experience to take the lead if needed. A lot of them thrive on the energy generated from sexual unions so don’t worry about taking advantage of them. As a matter of fact, they will have a lot more staying power than you will.
When little girls watch movies about Prince Charming, they very likely will look for him when they grow older, and the truth is there is no Prince Charming out there, there exists human beings, and as a woman you don’t need saving. I found it particularly interesting that as an adult I often get my craving for romance awakened after indulging myself with Facebook marriages.