People in long distance relationships are like the kid in your class who does the extra hard math problems at the end of each section just for fun. Or the person who wakes up at 4AM to run 16 miles every day, up a mountain in the rain. They’re doing what most of us do, except they’re making it a thousand times harder than it needs to be. Relationships are often confusing, brain-hurting messes of enigmas, even without 5000 miles in between you and your significant other. Add distance in and hoo boy, are you in for a bumpy ride. I feel the solution is fairly simple. If you do not feel like you are being treated like you deserve to, what are you still doing in that relationship? If you want it to work, then make it work. If not, then find somebody who meets your communication and attention standards.
Modest—She is quietly confident and doesn’t need to boast or name-drop or sell herself. Genuine humility is such a prized quality among men that it deserves its own post; guys have a HIGH radar for boastfulness in any form, and even a hint of it sets off alarm bells in a man’s mind.
From this story, it is clear that differences in culture, religion and norms make it doubly hard for interracial relationships to succeed. We might think that they are insignificant but each little difference adds up to make an interracial relationship struggles to find a common ground.
My current partner and I have been separated by and ocean for almost two years now. Although it is impossible difficult and I’ve had several moments of weakness, especially for physical companionship, we are still going on strong. I suppose a part of this is due to the fact that we have a daughter together. We are also very close to reuniting and that keeps us both motivated to keep going on.
I am a caregiver of a narrcissist. I try to understand the disorder she has but it makes it very difficult. I have to work and at the company I work at, this is the one with the hours. When I am at work, if I’m not depressed when I go there, I will be when I leave. It’s terrible. I run out of patience and I have a very high level of patience. Any advice will be very helpful. She refuses Dr.treatment.
I completely agree. You have phrased that really well. Life as an insecure adult working through attachment issues is challenging. It’s like other kids got something special that you’re trying to make up for. It’s a long and interesting journey. I think I’ve finally had the last of the bad choices in relationships. I can really see how my behaviour drives this and I’d love to do things differently. Some therapy and meditation has really helped.