It will state some more frequent types of online dating and virtual relationships, how they differ, which ones have a good outcome, which ones don’t, how to think of it and more general info about the subject. In our busy lives we don’t always answer our phones. Calling requires us to keep trying if we’re going to make a connection. Whether we’re in the early stages of dating or the later stages of love, we need perseverance and persistence if we’re going to deepen the relationship and help it grow.
Yes, you should see that there is a big probem if he nevers calls you. It should be a two way steet. He should be calling you too. The fact that you’ve brought it up and he knows that you’ve noticed, yet you still tolerate his not calling, shows an even bigger problem.
Like anyone, I also have similar problem with him saying he’s busy. We have been together for one year. Both of us are juggling between studies and work. Therefore, with such a tight schedule, we make a pact to meet each other once a week and we talk on the phone every night before we end the day. I don’t consider myself as someone very dependent as much as I like to have my own private time. However, I am always getting the feeling that he doesn’t have enough time for me. I become to think if i need to make some adjustment to myself or should I let go of him and let him pursue his career? or should i be more understanding by just standing by him (fyi, he’s in a transition period).
Nobody thinks about the distance in their relationship and goes, HOORAY! This is so much fun! It’s frustrating, for everyone. You’re starting off your relationship at a point of frustration. Yes, frustration leads to fighting, which leads to breakups in general, but you’re beginning your relationship with frustration. Most relationships start off at a neutral point. If things get bad later, it’s because differences and incompatibilities build up, creating a frustrating situation. With long distance relationships, the frustration is built right into the fabric.
I think you misunderstood my point of choosing between traditionalism and feminism. Women on average want the same rights as men and to be equal, without shouldering equal responsibility for those rights, that is what I meant. For example, only men are required to sign up for the draft(I realize that currently no one is drafted) or we cant register to vote or get federal funding for college. How is that equal? Its not. There are myriads of other examples I could bring out but I think you get the idea.
I would like to take the approach and pull back from calling him. Do you think that is the best thing to do? Or is there no hope at all for this guy? I really feel he is a good guy that has good intentions but who seems to have time organization problems that go beyond me.