Here is some advice that can help you pursue God’s will for your life and in your dating relationship. Seems that there are a lot of men out there that assume the date is just something to get through to get to the sex after. This can happen on any date, regardless if you met online or not. However, this happened to me so often that I began suspecting that meeting a guy online sent the subliminal message that I was looking for sex even though it was never discussed and my profile was in the serious relationship category.
Having read a lot of literature on NPD, I feel that I have to learn more and to learn to deal with it or get out. We have 3 months left on our lease, and I’m going to give this until then, hoping to try to develop some sort of empathy from her, but I don’t hold out much hope. She can be very loving, but she also can be very verbally abusive if she doesn’t get what she wants, right that second. When I have asked her about her lies, she doesn’t deny anything, but she doesn’t answer, either. Instead, she turns it around on me by saying I’m doing her wrong by not trusting her, by thinking she would do something like that, by not just loving and trusting her. She’s right about that part, but it’s still not an answer. My ex-wife did the same thing when I caught her having an affair. I know the signs. I could go on and on, but would like to hear more about this from others, perhaps some advice on what to do and how to handle my doubts about her. Thanks for reading.
I’ve made so many new friends. I am so so happy. You soon realise that people appreciate all the qualities your other half took for granted. You’ll realise you are special. You’ll soon start seeing what a waste of time your other half was and the bad things will outweigh the good about them. The idiot I left behind spends his weekend fighting, drinking has lost all motivation in his life and it really motivates me, there really is no better revenge. I would never get in to a relationship again until I am completely over it.
Not all men are like what is described in this article. Nor are all women the cliches that are easy to think. The online dating thing without a single doubt works, as long as you are patient, don’t take all the bullsht you’ll encounter (I’d bet many of us who complain are also guilty of some of that bullsht, too) and know what to look out for.
Activities like going out for an intimate dinner, staying at home and playing music from your younger days, or watching a favourite film will help both of you to remember why you chose each other. If money is in short supply, do babysitting swaps with a friend and plan a picnic in the park. There are 168 hours in a week: make a commitment to devote at least two of those hours to your relationship.
My advice remains the same- we must live holy as GOD is Holy. Just because you accepted the lie that it’s ok to have sex and whatever else outside of marriage; doesn’t mean that GOD agrees with it sis! God is clear, He says to FLEE fornication & the appearance of sin. And you’re right- God KNOWS your heart and the bible says that your heart is WICKED amongst all things and we must go to Christ & let Him renew our hearts & mindset. So, since you asked- I’m sorry sis- your relationship is not honoring God; no matter how you flip it. And like 1 John says.. if you honor God you will keep His commandments. He commands you to flee from these things outside of marriage.