It happened. You knew it would, but you didn’t think it would happen so quickly. In spite of any hope you had of slowing down the clock, you woke up one day to find that your child is not so childlike anymore. Suddenly, hormones are raging, romantic feelings are developing, and, of course, it doesn’t stop there. Before you know it, your teen may be entering the dating world. He will treat your family with compassion and will respect their opinion. I am sorry but if he curses or abuses you or someone else because you guys don’t meet his standards, he is definitely a boy. Boys get intimidated by certain things women do and because they cannot express their feelings of fear, they resort to cursing. He might still be a good lover but he has issues. My bad boy used to curse all the time but he stopped and began to accept people for who they are. I sat him down and we talked about how I felt when he cursed and told him how pathetic he looked when he did. He didn’t even realize how wrong he was until I brought his attention to the topic.
Someone asked me a long time ago how do you know when you’ve met the one you should marry. And my answer is the same today as it was then: its when you stop thinking about yourself first. Seriously. I don’t mean the little things. I don’t mean going to his favorite restaurant instead of yours, or sitting through Scarface for the 10th time, or cleaning the bathroom, or going out of your way to stop and get Malamars for him.
Charito1962, dashingscorpio – True, it’s not really advisable for young couples to be in LDR. I also think young people should spend their early years planning for their future, meet people, have fun and experience to be in relationship with someone close to them.
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It sounds obvious, but good communication is the foundation of any relationship not just one with distance involved. When it comes to long distance dating, you have to find some sort of time to actually talk to each other. Nowadays, this can come in the form of cell phone calls, Facetime, Skype or any other video conferencing type of software or applications.
Good article. You went through the different possibilities for the situation. It was thoughtful, and though provoking. I know I have been in this situation and looking back I can see now what was really going on that I couldn’t see then. A good general lesson to walk away from this article is that guys tend not to like clingy girls.