Ellie arrives in my office for her first session. She‘s visibly nervous. As we sit and talk, she places her eyes intently on her feet, breaking away periodically to catch my eyes and smile shyly. Your comment suggests sex is the prescription for a personal utopia… and that seems to me to be at least a ‘constricted’ understanding of humanity and happiness. You say ‘stop living out others repressed ideas’; the alternative is to live out someone else’s trigger-happy lifestyle.
Let’s say that you take a look at yourself and realize that your finances are not in the best of shape. Take the time to get this in order and see how you feel when you do. Probably a little bit better. Then, let’s say that you also realize that you are not in the best of shape. You can take the time to get in better shape and when you do – again you will feel better about yourself. And that is only going to enhance your chances for winning back your ex girlfriend or being able to attract someone else so that you don’t even think about her anymore.
It can be tempting to think you are more special” than his wife; more beautiful, sexier, nicer—everything he says. But if he already had one foot out the door—and that’s the case for most men who actually end up leaving their wives—you are mainly this: the nearest exit. This man may end up remarrying, but hardly ever to the first woman who provides him with a convenient way out.
I never dated much in my life, my last relationship pretty much took it out of me, to the point of my weight being 90lbs, being a 5 foot 6 woman, 90 lbs is VERY thin, The day I left I felt like a million chains had slide off of me, there was no more that could be done to me, I had hit rock bottom, and felt like this person took me on a trip down the devils throat, well now 3 years later I am healthy as can be expected. At 35 years old I have no desire to date ever again, I feel in my 20’s and 30’s all I worried about was dating, now, I will spend my 40’s to 80’s living my life my way!
It is not a question of colour, but a question of cultural differences. Similar to comments made by Anna and kaleidoscope people seem to change as they get older. My wife was very open-minded when she was young, mixing with many cultures and feeling very comfortable. However she now prefers to mix with people of her own or similar culture and no longer feels comfortable with other cultures as she once did. Skin colour makes no difference whatsoever, but the cultural divide is another thing altogether. Some may suggest that compromise is the best and possibly the only option, but asking or expecting someone to compromise on something they feel so fundamental to life is almost impossible. If these relationships are to work then the following needs to happen; one of the people in the relationship is happy to follow the culture of the other person, or cultural values in one or both of the people are not strong.
I think most will agree it is very difficult to find other compatible people seeking marriage in the church today. It has been my experience that some that you do find have some beliefs and practices that do not harmonize with those of the church, and are not interested in parting with them. For this reason I have been hesitant to pursue a permanent commitment to some of the sisters in Christ I have known. Other times I have met single Orthodox women from outside my area who are committed Christians, yet are understandably opposed to moving to a new place.