Note: Though this article is directed towards Muslims, it applies to everyone in the realm of dating, those looking for love and coming up unsatisfied etc. Even if you post real pictures of yourself in your profile, people can look different in person. The trouble with online dating is that when you do finally decide to meet, there can be so much emphasis on the whole looks thing. People seem to think that if there’s no chemistry in the first few seconds of seeing someone in the flesh, that there can be no hope of any romance in the future. How sad.
d’writer: It’s true that lasting relationships depend on the people involved. But there are some challenges that only occur in LDRs, which can make a relationship harder for the people involved (than if those same people lived in the same place). Good luck on your search!
This is a load of crap. LD CD whatever love is love. I never intended to fall in love with someone in Australia. Living in the US makes that about as LD as you can get. However, the best part of this relationship is really what I just said. I absolutely never intended to fall all in love with someone 8000 miles away from me. But it happened and I’d be a fool not to work my ass off to make this work until one of us moves. You may only be blessed with true love once. If it’s real it will work!
In public out of all people its mostly White females that do a lot of unnecessary gawking and excessive whispering while gawking and are sometimes smug and rude at a store or particular resteraunt…but that’s how America is and its no big deal. Its to be expected…so it doesn’t bother me at all.
The problem however, is that just be yourself” is inherently bad advice. Being authentic is one thing – that’s something we all should be doing. But just be yourself” is about not changing, period. And sometimes, quite frankly, being yourself is the problem. It doesn’t do you any good to just be yourself” if you suck. Being told to be yourself means refusing to change, even when your current self is what’s holding you back. I’ve lost track of how many people I’ve known whose bad luck” with women boiled down to something about themselves – something that was well within their ability to I’d point out their issue: a shitty attitude towards women, an unrealistic expectation of relationships or just plain being a selfish asshole – they’d come back with well, women should love me for who I am. I’m not going to change just to please people.” Then with their very next breath1 they’re back to wondering why women don’t like them.
Doing things apart is also healthy. You don’t lose yourself if you are able to do things by yourself. I’m not talking about when your honey goes out with their OSO (though that is also good). I’m talking about meeting up with friends for dinner without the sweetie. It’s ok to do things by yourself and not be joined at the hip all the time. For me it’s having the grandchild for a week. For M it’s going on a retreat by himself for a few days to reflect on things.