The main difference between dating and being in a relationship is that people in a relationship are connected by a mutual commitment to each other. You and the person you’re with have agreed, either officially or unofficially, that you’re seeing each other exclusively and are in a partnership together. Just one bone to pick, or a clarification. You seem early on to be equating the gatherer role, at least when men assume it, with an aversion to commitment. But the women in the gatherer role were big on commitment. I think the two different approaches to commitment have not changed. They are biological. WOmen, as childbearers and rearers, need committed support to undertake the role so important to species survival. Men want pleasure. Neither has changed in that regard.
You will find the strength you are looking for through confidence and faith. Feel confident that your instincts are right about everything you feel is wrong in the relationship. Have faith that once you have moved on you most certainly will be well and you will be opening the doors to finding someone who will have the qualities you are looking for and provide a much more gratifying relationship.
Most everyone grew up in families that were less than optimal. We suffered from various degrees of neglect, abuse, and abandonment. In order to get through the dating stage and develop a real relationship, we have to talk about our wounding. Interestingly, I’ve found that many people, particularly men, seem to find it easier to talk on the phone about these issues than talking in person. Texting is a poor substitute for talking when we reach stage four and are wanting real, lasting love.
You have been such an inspiration to my relationship with my Adam and also with God. I am so blessed to have found you through blogging. If you only knew how pure you were and how real you are. I am a part of Lambda Omicron Chi Christian Sorority INC and I tell the Queens of my organization about your blogs all the time. Thank you for allowing God to use you. My Adam and I have really enjoyed your experience with your Husband and your walk with God. It is good to know that someone actually did it the pure and holy way! We are forever blessed!
Most of the time, when we are in a relationship, we tend to follow a pattern in our lives. This makes it easy to ignore the red flags that are actually the signs of a bad relationship. Also the investment of time and emotions attached to a relationship can make it difficult for you to decide when to break up. However here are some circumstances that outline when to break up and move on with life.
And the more is found in a mutual faith in and following of Jesus. With this more,” we can say to the watching world, Don’t settle for artificial and thin loyalty, affection, security, and sexual experimentation when God intends and promises so much more through a Christian union. And a Christian union can only be found through Christian dating.