The subject of dating and relationships for women with disabilities is one of those areas for which we have many more questions than answers, more suggested tendencies than demonstrated patterns of variables. If research pursuits reflect social values, it makes sense that a society that has long ignored or disdained the gender role of women with disabilities has invested little effort in understanding their potential for love, partnership and motherhood. One interracial couple that I know have this say when I asked them about their marriage – focus on the similarities, not the differences. They too faced numerous problems early on in their marriage but they took the time to learn more about each other’s cultures and blend them to create their unique mix.
Therefore, our attachment to things and to people can only bring us more worries. Also, I see it like this, being attached to someone and worrying what he is doing every minute of the day can make you impatient. Therefore, when you are in a relationship with a truck driver you will have to be really flexible and understand his schedule.
My theory is that the more open and truthful that you are with them, then the more they will reciprocate and be open and honest with you in return. It might not always be the case but I can almost predict that if your kids know that you think enough of them to open up and be honest with them about certain things then this will make it a whole lot more likely that they will then feel more comfortable coming to you with any problems and issues that they may encounter.
Help your girlfriend slowly overcome her shyness by introducing her to new people. A nice way to do this is to go on a double date with a couple who are really close friends of yours. Make sure that your friends aren’t brash extroverts who will rip into her shyness and make fun of her.
Apparently, this hub has hit a raw nerve for many of our fellow readers. How interesting. And I wonder why? Here is what I am concerned about with regard to long distance relationships: They are a bit like make believe. When LD lovers are together, everything is lovely because they have missed each other and they get to keep experiencing the honeymoon. When they are not together, they get to imagine everything is lovely, primarily due to not having been around to see the other person’s really annoying habits. In day to day, same city relationships, we get the real deal – the good, the bad, and the ugly. I’d rather have that. That way, I know who I’m really dealing with…and I can decide just how worthwhile he is.(By the way, 78% of men will not admit to cheating.) I enjoyed your post very much and I agree with you. There are exceptions to everything, but I suspect they are rare indeed.
Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating I love myself” over and over. It takes time and it takes work and it isn’t always easy. Everyone’s path will be different, but no matter what, having a picture of what high self-esteem looks like, and how it can play out in relationships, is helpful and can help reveal the areas you may need to work on.