According to the 2008 United States Census, statistics on interracial relationships show that they make up nearly 4% of all marriages in that year compared to the minuscule 0.7% back in 1970. As the world becomes smaller and people become less apprehensive in mixing with other races, interracial relationships will naturally increase. Interesting points, but they all spring from a negative stand. Fighting, frustration, cheating… I guess the ultimate issue is intimate closeness, that is, how bad two parties want it. If it’s not principal, such long distance relations can go rather long indeed.
Speaking of communication, successful back-and-forth is essential for any successful relationship, whether it’s about money, sex, family, or who’s turn it is to do the dishes. The key, often, is trying to remove your emotions from the situation and have a productive discussion rather than an emotion-fueled argument Of course, that’s sometimes easier said than done, so you may need to take some time to cool off separately before you really dive in. Also, be aware of these common communication mistakes —no matter how great of a couple you are, we all do things that hinder communication (like expecting your partner to read your mind, or giving in without saying what you really think). At the end of the day, everyone has different communication styles , and knowing how your partner’s mind works is the key to making everything go smoothly.
So your partner has or is talking about having another relationship. Maybe they have already started dating. Either way you are going to have to deal with what Polys call the New Relationship Energy (NRE). I, as a Mono, would like to call it the Shiny New Toy Syndrome (SNT).
I literally stumbled across The Man From Earth whilst browsing through Netflix one boring Saturday afternoon…amazing movie, and yes, hard to talk about without ruining the whole experience. I watched it with a Mormon member of my family and it provoked some interesting discussions as I’m sure you can imagine. I’ve seen most of the others on your list (The Seventh Seal is a personal favorite, good to see it here) but thanks for the recommendations on the others, there’s a good 4 or 5 I’ll be adding to my ‘must-see’ list.
Getting angry about her behavior, be it her flaking or criticizing you, shows insecurities and weakness. She will feel you as weak, but girls want a strong man. When you are certainly not rattled by anything, especially by a girl you are into, that’s when women start to fall for you like dominos.
Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed with all that you need to do (we ALL have lots of stuff we could do better) – pick one. One thing, and work on that. Then, as you begin to live that principle better, pick another. Start with small simple achievable goals and be sure to note the blessings that come into your life as you live that principle.