Dating/relationship violence is a pattern of coercive and abusive tactics employed by one partner in a relationship to gain power and control over the other partner. It can take many forms, including physical violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation, and emotional, sexual or economic abuse. Abusive relationships may include sexual violence, which is a form of physical violence. Loving someone does not mean that you can never say no” to sex. No matter what kind of relationship you have, if you are forced to have sex, it is rape. If you are humiliated or forced to be sexual in any way, that is sexual abuse. Now you don’t have to do the compersion dance if you don’t like the person that your partner is with. That’s ok too! Just because the word compersion is out in the world doesn’t mean that we mono/open people have to embrace it fully. The poly world would like everyone to fully understand and do the complete compersion dance. I say do the compersion dance at your own pace.
The fundamentals of working with bloggers are the same as with traditional journalists at traditional media outlets: respect their schedules; take time to read their material to learn their interests; and only contact them if/when they want to be contacted.
It’s nice to read that I’m not alone in being horrified at online dating. Some of us just don’t get anything from viewing photos or reading texts and want to actually meet someone in the real world and get know a real-live person. Unfortunately, the online dating crap has oozed into the real world and made men think they can approach women in the real world the same way as online. They want to hook up immediately, have no conversational skills, act strangely and admit bizarre desires too readily (come on dudes, fantasy roleplaying isn’t for everyone). Sadly, I think this social retardation and attempt at turning women into holes-on-demand are here to stay and women have really lost out on the best of men. I will definitely be buying a cat!
Christians are called to a life of repentance, a life in which Christ is God and my life is His. Sex, even great” sex, is a normal part of life for married Christians; but, and here is the irony for our culture, great sex is the byproduct of Christ-like loving and giving in the context of a life-long relationship. Feeling sexually attracted to someone you hardly know is certainly no way to determine if someone will make a good wife or husband. A good marriage can never be based on how the other makes me feel. Good marriage is based on my caring for and loving the other, even when it doesn’t always feel good to me.
Julia Sweeney’s account of her own search for god which led to her conversion to atheism is an honest, sweet, funny, and moving story of how reason and rationality can overcome even the strictest religious upbringing. It’s not overly hostile or condescending toward religion or the religious and it gets its message through loud and clear. If nothing else, this film is a great inspiration for any atheists who are in the closet and terrified of what will happen if they ever come out.
Make sure he or she understands that infatuation is not the same as love. Infatuation may give us butterflies, goose bumps, and that can’t eat, can’t sleep” type of feeling, but it isn’t the same as love. Love takes time to grow, whereas infatuation may happen almost instantly.