when you get attracted to someone, and before taking it to the next level, stop and ask yourself why. At which time I almost ruined it. I wasn’t sure what I’d envisioned, but I hadn’t pictured a seriously good-lookin’ dude. Mix being courted by Prince Charming with the fact that I was in the midst of PMS, and you’ve got a dangerous combo. I displayed a bout of Female Insecurity that nearly cleaved our newly hatched relationship in half.
I would go as far as saying that i find this article to be discriminatory and no one gives you the right to talk down to people in LDRs. These relationships are as true and REAL as any other and they do last but yes it takes hard work and yes we choose to do the extra math problem and run the extra mile..you know why? cos its a feeling somebody as juvenile as you can never understand. I feel sorry for you.
What about some care, compassion, and understanding for you towards your husband? I am in his position (narcissistic mother) and it can make one’s upbringing unbearable, not merely difficult. Imagine if this is the person who you turn to from your earliest years for your sense of reality, of right and wrong, and for emotional validation. Imagine if that same person is on a campaign for your psychological destruction. I am trying to think of any way to hold these people accountable in a court of law and it is near-impossible, because they will wheedle their way all the way through their testimony or (in the case of my mother) lie outright.
The night of her holiday party was my wake-up call. Her behavior was so horrifying that I vowed to sever my connection to a person who didn’t seem human. I think everyone has a defining moment when they’re involved with a narcissist. In truth, there are usually many defining moments, but we tune them out. There’s usually a horrific event that alerts us, once and for all, that we need to go and never look back.
I had a friend who was narcissistic and it got so bad I realized I needed to avoid him because I considered the friendship toxic. Reading your lens has made me even more aware of how troubled this fellow is as he does things to destroy his own well being. Your information was very enlightening. Thank you.
I love you a whole lot, and you are a wonderful supportive partner. I can count on your support and advise. You do go above and beyond at times to be there for me. I want us to have a future together. I want to be with you. I just don’t want to feel like I have described above, or at least find a way to make sense of it, or deal with it. I won’t ask you for more of your time, because I don’t want to place those kinds of demands on you. I don’t like to be unresonable with others, but I think that perhaps I minimise my needs for the sake of others. As I said, I feel I am responsible for this dynamic in some way.