There is a segment of the population who has completely given up on dating and is happier for it. Sometimes this only a temporary measure for a few weeks, or sometimes this is an indefinite amount of time that could last for months or years. Nevertheless, many singles are happy being single and consider a dating hiatus to be a wonderful respite. It is not that these singles have not tried, but dating has not met their needs for one reason or another. Some people choose not to date because relationships are not their thing. Unfortunately, dating and domestic abuse is a problem on college campuses and often an indication of abuse in subsequent relationships and marriages. Below is a list of warning signs of abusive personalities. If these behaviors appear in your or a friend’s relationship, it’s important to remember that they are not the fault of the victim-the perpetrator is solely responsible for his or her actions-but these behaviors may indicate an abusive relationship.
I really enjoyed reading this! It only validated how confident and special I really am. I’m the type that will not accept just any man. If you don’t meet the qualities and expectations than I’m moving on. I have one gf who tells me I’m too picky. So what! It’s my life and I have that right. So again, thank you.
Thanks for your thoughts, Anonymous. Yes, dating at and after 40 is a whole different ball game, as life circumstances, plans, and values shift majorly at that life stage. Same goes for dating at and after 60. My clients find they’re better able to engage with romantic interests at these ages once they’ve acknowledged and worked through what being in relationship means in mid-life and beyond.
People who have just got out of a relationship with a controlling/jealous ex often want a little bit of space. Being single gives a person the time to think about what they want out of life, and often that means avoiding the dating scene. There is nothing wrong with dating, but there are some times in your life when you would rather just come home to the couch than go out to a club. For those who want to continue dating being single will give them a chance to meet a variety of people and keep their options open. Casual dating is often a good fit for those who want a little bit of space and want to keep their options open.
Clever Elsie is a 30-something unmarried female in New York, plowing upstream with just one paddle. She started this blog to combat the treatment of singles as second-class citizens. Single-headed homes now tip the scales at 50.8% of the population, so she thinks it’s time we threw our weight around! 🙂 Singletude isn’t about false positivity but about recognizing that a human life doesn’t need to be paired to have value. And that means when we DO couple up, we need to treat each other as valuable individuals, not disposable entertainment. What she writes here is an outgrowth of that philosophy…Elsie is available for writing, editing, and voiceovers. Have a job proposal for her? Get in touch! You’ll also find her hawking her wares and spouting her opinions , so stop by and say hello. Oh, and if you need advice and want to test just how clever Elsie is, send a question , and she just might publish the answer on her blog!
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