Teaching a guy how to treat you isn’t about barking orders at him or giving ultimatums. It’s about communicating very clearly what you feel is (and isn’t) acceptable behavior in regards to the way he is treating you. Yes, we are all human, and that human nature is fallen. But might I suggest that Our Lord did not come into the pit to camp there with us but to lift us out of it. Plus, never underestimate the power of the Rosary; it has wrought miracles of chastity before and can still do so.
You aren’t alone. It sounds like yours is not the kind of situation I was speaking of in this HUB. It sounds like you are both busy, he prepared you for this prior to the relationship, and most importantly he’s not making time for friends and hanging out and other things before you proving you are not his priority: this is strictly work related.
Now if I was to blow up his phone with texts and/or calls while he was out with another and not give them a moment’s piece, then that’s jealousy. I’m sabotaging M’s time out and therefore destroying his happy time; let alone M then having a really loud discussion with me afterwards about my behaviour. If I complain and/or rag on M when he texts or calls me when he’s home from being with someone, again that’s jealousy. He’s feeling good about the time he had, and I have to be the bomb that destroys it all.
Bottom line, you deserve to be with a man who strives to work on himself—because he loves himself enough to do so. You deserve a man who does not live in the pretense that everyone is a fault, but him. You deserve a man who is secure with himself that he wants to shine with you, not hold himself back or you. And most importantly, you deserve a man who is available emotionally. Do not let a man’s inability to grow (or lose his past baggage) bring you down with his heavy load. Find a man who is less broken and more open to being the best man for himself…as well as for you.
I have come across a few narcissists in my life. They are very difficult people especially when they are determined to dislike someone. I was told that it’s important to establish boundaries when these unhealthy relationships exist in your life. It’s sad, but being the victim of a narcissist’s instability is even sadder.
Adjusting to marriage life too could be overwhelming moment but you could adjust to marriage as a learning experience Marriage is WORK Many nearly wedded couple fail to notice this. Being crazy in love don’t grantee everlasting but growing in love by increasing the level of your awareness. (learning how to manage a home ,taking care of each and making a preparation for the babies. ). Marriage isn’t a bed of roses, there’s a fine line between boyfriend and Married individuals.