Come on, join in the fun and make your voice be heard! Life and love are never that simple. What appears right to you may not be so to another. So, explore these fun love and relationship questions and see where you stand! I do enjoy your out-of-the-box thinking though! I’ve heard many suggestions for future additions to this list and this is the first I’ve heard Amadeus come up. Good job. Even if I don’t include it here after a future update, at least people can get the suggestion here in the comments section if they want.
In my case, the realationship lasted almost ten years. I knew all along that was something very wrong with him, but I couldn’t quite put my fingers on it. It was very hard for me because I met him very young and naive and I dedicated myself completely to make him better. It took me a very long time to realize I couldn’t and even than I was unable to leave, regardless of how much I wanted it.
My general advice is that an Orthodox Christian should marry an Orthodox Christian because religion matters-especially after the honeymoon. However, you are right. There are cases in which the spiritual journey of one or the other is such that marriage should precede shared Orthodox faith. This is a matter of discernment, not just of the couple (because the love endorphins usually make anything seem possible to them), but discernment with parents, priests and other (usually) older and wiser people.
Your story is horrible, proof that our bodies cannot withstand an overload of stress without rebelling. The fact that he turned your family against you is typical. I hope you continue to take measures to protect yourself. There are a lot of online groups for survivors of Narcissist on Facbook. CoDA meetings can also help. Sounds like you need a stable support system outside of your family. I’m sending you healing energy.
When my three-year relationship ended, I was devastated. It took me about two months to get over her, and an additional eight months to find a new girlfriend. But that’s okay. You shouldn’t feel ashamed about not having a girlfriend or boyfriend. Instead, use the opportunity to work on yourself. Make new friends, work on personal goals, and play some damn video games guys! It takes work to be happy and to get over that long-term relationship, but when you finally do…you’ll wish it would happen again. No I’m just kidding! But honestly, at least you will be wiser from your experiences and you’ll know how to handle it if or when it happens again. And if you can’t recall the steps, you can always reread this article!
I’ve been unhappy with the lack of communication I had with the bf. We barely interacted besides funny cat pictures he occasionally sent me, so last week I decided to tell him that either we see each other more often, or he calls more often, or I wouldn’t see him this weekend.