Sexual relationships create an emotional bond? Nonsense, feminists will say. We use men just as much as men use us. No strings attached! I think we both realize we are in new territory of what a relationship means and how to make it work. I thank God I didn’t end the relationship a few months ago when I thought his actions were unbearable. I still see need for improvement- but at least by continuing to dialogue – I have seen him make some changes in communicating better after I brought it up, and realized its okay for me to express my needs but I try to do so rationally instead of emotionally. I guess only time will tell the future of our relationship, but I want to give it time and not give up. If you can offer any further insight, measures of progress in relationships, and maybe an opinion on how much time is reasonable for people to keep trying to work things out I’d appreciate the feedback. Thanks!
The sociopath does not accept the blame for any of the harm and hurt they cause other people. In fact this person is convinced that the blame for what happened belongs with someone other than themselves, even when this clearly is not the case. They don’t care that they damage and destroy other people’s lives. Their only concerns are winning the game and getting what they want.
As Father Dickson usually says, Thank you for your comments. Indeed I can see where you are coming from, but I think the ‘rules’ are useful in challenging the presumed strength people can attribute to themselves in the control of their passions; also the dangers in situations that people tend to ignore.
The worst thing about online dating and social media is it’s conditioning people to move online and creating social retardation. I tried chatting up a lot of ladies in public places and trying to line up some potential dates with no success and often they reacted like they were being hit on by an axe murderer. I’ve heard this from many other men. So people are being conditioned to meet online when it sucks and the old fashioned way of meeting is becoming less viable. The only people happy are the ones profiting from people trying in vain to meet someone online.
Men and women in the world want many of the same things you want: affection, commitment, conversation, stability, sex, and so on.Eventually, they will see that the ground under your lives and relationship is firmer than the flimsy flings they know. They’ll see something deeper, stronger, and more meaningful between you and your significant other.
My husband and I courted ALL day. We STAYED out in groups with people and family & we were rarely alone in our almost 2 year courting process. It was great for him and I to see how each other interacted with others in large groups. Was it hard?! UM, YES. It wasn’t EASY but if it was EASY, everybody would do it. But as a wife, I see the FRUIT of it. It’s pretty amazing. Beyond amazing. Mind-blowing amazing.