Relationships are an important part of life. We begin a relationship with someone from the moment we are born and most of us will continue in relationships of some sort until the day we die. God encourages relationships. The Bible is full of them. It is obvious that from the beginning of time, people need people. Even God Himself said about Adam in Genesis 2:18, It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him.” Jesus, too, did not do life alone. He had His family, friends, and disciples to love, help, and encourages Him throughout His life here on earth. Long-term seems to be a relative term. In my case, it was four years of going out together and 36 years of marriage. He just walked away, saying we had grown too far apart. I think it will take me years to recover and I can’t ever see me sharing my life with someone else.
Ditto! Thanks for writing this article. Bottom line, online dating is not what it was when some of these commenters met their loves. If you have a brain and are not looking for a hookup online dating can damage your view of society. It would be nice if more people let the few good people that are seriously seeking relationships to get out of their houses and stop waiting for an email saying here I am. Great article! Thought you had read my mind.
Shay L. Askew is a minister, talk show host, producer, author, consultant, educator, blogger, director, and mother. She was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. Shay is the host of Spiritual Sense w/Shay, a 2-hour online Christian live streaming broadcast, which airs every Sunday at 7am on DJ Dummy the Genius Network-VusicLive, WVLM ( ). She is also the Executive Producer of The Truth & A Church Girl, a 1-hour online Christian talk show also on the VusicLive network.
Just as you can meet a liar or a guy only looking for sex at a bar, work etc. Online is a bit of a minefield. People do lie or ‘exaggerate’ shall we say. I had dates where the guys said they were ‘intelligent, tall, witty, charming, good looking, funny’. No they weren’t! Some are just plain odd, never had girlfriends, they would have no chance in a bar, so you have to wonder why they are online.
I think you also have to be really honest about how you affect the dynamics between you? It is often reported that some people with interpersonal issues actually create a self-fulfilling prophecy of never being with the right person, because they place to much emphasis on the relationship in terms of their happiness. It seems to me that you outlined feeling too attached as a possible negative for you and your relationship.
Wow, If you have ever spent twenty hours with anyone, then you need to find a hobby. There comes a time that when two people have been together for a long time, they start to grate on each other’s nerves. It has happened to me and has happened to you as well. Give your partner some space,some breathing room. Go out shopping or go jogging for a change Do something other than be with that person. Sometimes when we are in love, we feel we cannot part away from our loved one;they are essentially the center of our universe. But have you realized that the longer you are with that person and the more time you spend with that person, arguments abound? Even if you are married, still give your spouse some breathing room-Call your mother:she misses you.