In honor of Valentine’s Day, Science of Us is spending this week talking about love — specifically, what happens when it goes wrong. If you ever wondered about the psychology of breakups, we’ve got you covered. I completely understand most of the men commenting on here, because I feel exactly the same way towards the opposite sex on many occasions. Many of them can be completely unrealistic, narcissistic, entitled manchildren who are total users and even some of the most horrible ones think they are the best thing on the planet, treating women like vaginal ATMs and breaking hearts without giving it a second thought.
Some women believe that men are just like our best girlfriends, and that they understand that we are just having fun with fashion when we wear items like baggy harem yoga pants. (Which, no offense, do not even look good on 22-year-old yoga instructors.) You might certainly get looks and attention, but guys usually don’t appreciate out-there clothing quite the way other women do. They do not wish to scan your fashion choices for hidden clues as to whether you are artsy or outdoorsy or a party girl. That is almost exclusively a girl thing — sorting friends based on similar clothing style — and doesn’t translate into romantic success or increased soulmate connection with a man.
Trust dependably run as an inseparable unit with love. One basically would not exist without the other. Much the same as love, this one shows normally if the love you have for your loved one is valid. This is not something that you can control whether it ought to go to one side or the left, it simply happens and it will appear.
Fortunately, I finally came to terms with the experience last year and came to terms with it through therapy, and now that I have accepted that what happened wasn’t my fault, it seems to have made a difference. I’m beginning to trust people more now, and working up more courage to consciously flirt with women.
What scares me from going over there now is, I’ve heard German, Austrian, and Swiss men often get mail-order brides from Eastern European countries. I know Americans get mail-order brides, too; I had a co-worker who was one, from the Philippines. When I met her husband, I saw why he needed to get a mail-order bride!
Men mature much later than women and normally middle age in men is the age of maturity. This is where they seek for a more stable and healthy relationship. Playtime is over and it is time for them to be serious with their life. This is the age where they usually have pieced their life altogether and they are now ready for a more serious and deeper commitment. Women who are tired of short-lived and immature relationships can find a more satisfying and more stable relationship with an older guy than a guy in his late 20’s for example. Younger men are still in their vigorous stage where they are easily tempted. They are still at an age where they love to explore and try different things before settling on something more serious. So if a girl feels that she is ready to tie the knot, or when she is ready for a serious commitment and start a family, a younger man is just not the right person for her.